I am writing this blog because I need to do so. Bear with me. This is extremely hard for me to process. This blog involves Kelly Clarkson and my stepdad.
My parents got divorced in 2001 my mom got remarried in 2002. Seems crazy when you type it out…
Anyway, I had a new stepdad! I was young, I had no idea what had happened to get my family to the point we were, but for that moment, I wasn’t unhappy.
There was some time of adjustment.
As time went on, like a few months, I began to be grounded and punished for the CRAZIEST things. I spent an ENTIRE 3 month long summer, a prisoner in my room. For what? I, honestly, have no idea. Amy and I were constantly being criticized and yelled at. We lived in constant fear of upsetting him. There were good days, and there were bad days.
This little family-thingy, my mom, stepdad, Amy, and I, gave us a few solid, good memories of our time spent together. Then there are the other memories. The ones that I locked up in a closet, never hoping to relive. And I was doing so good…
Whenever this song comes on the radio/my iPhone, I change it IMMEDIATELY. I love Kelly Clarkson. Her music and lyrics have really hit home so many times, this was one of those times I was not a fan of it. Every single time I hear that song, I think of my stepdad. Why?
Because of him, I doubted everything I had ever been taught.
Because of him, I hated myself.
Because of him, I was lost.
Because of him, I questioned everything I ever believed in.
Because of him, I was afraid.
Only a few people know the real reason why Amy and I were able to move in with my dad. It was because of my stepdad and the abuse he was spewing onto Amy and I. My dad is my hero for getting us out of there. ❤
The anger and fear I have kept inside since all this happened, 5 years ago, has been insane. Memories will randomly come back to me and I get angry all over again. Abuse, whether verbal, emotional, and/or physical, should never be taken lightly. And it most certainly shouldn’t be pushed aside for 5 years. I was more concerned with our physical safety then, now it’s my time to work on my mental safety.
Now it’s my time to process everything that happened and to work through it. It’s probably the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
Because of you, I am afraid.